what do u think

Posted by concor1 (232 days ago)

i know a guy for quite some time. mostly we work together, he is a photographer so many times he send me sms about which event he going to such as parties in bars/clubs or homeparty. i went once and not like it. he still keep sending such messages such as: to all my friends blah blah..so i just dont think that kind of sms is a invite, rather spam promoting events, lol.
but yesterday he told me that he tried to be friendly by sending out those sms, and received no reaction.

i did not reply to those sms, nor showing up in those events. what do you think?

(I am based in Other)

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Posted by Strawberry_Shortcake (232 days ago)

if you are not interested, tell him. a gf of mine did that and i told her very directly to stop, and she did, it's that simple ;)

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by concor1 (232 days ago)

do you think those sms are invites like he claimed?

(I am based in Unspecified)

Posted by kaileyb (232 days ago)

I think you're putting WAY too much energy into this. If you're not into him, and have no interest in going to his events/parties or whatever, who cares what he says or thinks. Just don't reply and if it annoys you, tell him to take you off his sms list. Simple!

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by Pupalicious (232 days ago)

Kailey is absolutely right. IF you're not interested in him, why are you asking questions about him.

Asking questions about him makes me think you're completely interested.

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by notyou (232 days ago)

if he likes you, he may be shy to call. maybe sms's are easier for him than calling. do youthink he's inviting everyone? do you know him well? why not go out and see if you like each other?he may not want to come on strong since you still have to work together. he may not know if you are interested romantically. take a chance!

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by concor1 (231 days ago)

we dont work together anymore. i know he's inviting everyone. he push the send to all button too much i think. just he said that he invited me a few times and i didnt show up. what do guys think? i never took it as an invite.

(I am based in Unspecified)

Posted by maxis (231 days ago)

Its rubbish - he's just saying it. It was a "perhaps" invite but not very personal.

Ignoring spam is not rejection of an invitation.

He is just an attention seeker, and saying that to guilt you. or pretend he was intersted but now is not - who knows, but spamming people about waht parties yo are going to and making open invitations like that (if in fact they even are) sounds rather cretin-like. Be glad you dont work with him any longer and ask him to remove your number from his spam-list.

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by kaileyb (230 days ago)

Seriously concor1, stop asking what other ppl think, it's irrelevant. You obviously have some level of interest towards this guy, otherwise you wouldn't be reading so much into his lame, attention seeking sms's. Put yourself out of your misery, confront him either way and either get yourself a date with him, or tell him to take you off his sms list and put your energy to better use!

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by flashback (230 days ago)

I think it's pretty clear that it is not a 'date' invitation, or even an invitation. It is simply promotion.

I knew a man once who was a performer who would write ambiguous emails to me telling me where he was performing and saying he would really like to see me there etc. I did go once to be kind, but realised that it was just to fill seats. Not any personal interest in me.

Ater that, I wouldn't go, simply because I didn't really like the music he played, and secondly I couldn't be bothered.

I think you are safe in declining or ignoring the texts. He doesn't want a date with you. He just wants numbers. At best, he is trying to create a 'scene' or 'network'... facebook live... It is self-promotion.

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by shirleywbird (217 days ago)

sometimes an individual plant spreads seeds ...if your garden doesn't wish to sustain or promote this seed , then you don't need to waste time and worry. So at this time the seeds he is attempting to plant get no purchase in your garden.

(I am based in Hong Kong)