Pls Tell me your story

Posted by Bubas (415 days ago)

Would some of you girls would mind to tell me your story about coming to HK (following your husband)..?
How did you feel, how was your relationship with your husband ? does it change anything ?
Thanks..

(I am based in Hong Kong)

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Posted by Bubas (415 days ago)

Men replies are welcome too..

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by the_morning_star (411 days ago)

yeah, changed my lifestlye a lot!
All i can say is... you can figure out and can get better life if you dare.

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by lyn123 (407 days ago)

Im very happy woman, finally i got married with my husband. I can't imagine when i first meet him last january 2004,we saw each other twice in one day by accidentally. Ops! i believe that's a destiny in the Gods perfect time and perfect place> Good luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

(I am based in Shanghai)

Posted by tigerbay (405 days ago)

I am a man who followd my wife back to China 4 years ago. Not HK but Shanghai.

We are both middle aged, so I did not do the usual xpat thing of marrying a woman much younger than myself. My Wife is Chinese, we met in UK.She did not want to stay in UK as there are more opportunities here.

There was a complete role reversal for me. In UK I would have been chief income earner. Here my wife has a very good job, and my job is secondary.

I don't really enjoy my job most of the time, and I hate living in Shanghai. It really is a rat race. We have an appartment in Shanghai and a house in another beuatiful city, and we have vacatioaned elsewhere. There are many beuatiful cities and wonderful people in China, but for me the culture in Shanghai is poor. I was even called unproffessional for having to chage my leave dates, and clients expected me to come back of leave early for meeting. I refused.

On my last holiday I got several phone calls and SMS about work related stuff. None of it that urgent. If I was a senior manager you expect this, but I am not even a manager. In the end I stopped answering or reading SMS. This was a bit of a surprise.

I have very little social life as most of the married expats have kids. The single guys have different intersts and my wife does not trust them. I have to admit that some of them are like a dog with two tails LOL.

I have been through culture shock. Last year was the angry phase. Some days I just wanted to start something so I could beat the crap out of them. Befor I am judged as a pscho, most men will admit other men of feeling like this.

I get very lonely and isolated and I often suffer with stress and depression. Although I should learn Chinese I am sometimes resentful. This is illogical as having more language would give me more freedom.

Sometimes I get lonely and paranoid, 'maybe she has a boyfriend' I think. Sometimes she thinks I might have a girl. In this city it would be so easy and I have been tempted, but have not gone there.

Well this is a man's reply.

(I am based in Shanghai)