Pocket Money - What does it means

Posted by machree (471 days ago)

My man wants to give me pocket money for shopping. He NEVER does that before...does that mean something?

(I am based in Shanghai)

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Posted by Electrode (471 days ago)

It could do.
More details please.

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by balzac (471 days ago)

have you been wearing the same pair of shoes the whole year or does your lingerie need a revamp?

Perhaps you've been down and he is just trying to be nice

Or do you suspect he's making up for some wrongdoing? (if he's nice then something's wrong)

Perhaps he overheard a lunchtime office conversation about how a good man 'ensures' that his other half gets pocket money to spend, otherwise he is a tight fisted no good scrooge and is trying to fall in line.

Could be anything..

(I am based in Singapore)

Posted by momo8.. (471 days ago)

That's a common practice if he's Chinese.His way of showing you he is taking care of you and is being thoughtful.How much are we talking about exactly? Like a couple of hundred or a credit card?
My hubby always puts extra money in my wallet almost every day when he first started doing it and I asked him that's what he told me.

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by JFK888 (471 days ago)

If you are based in Hong Kong, I'd guess he won a Mark Six...

Or he got a big increment on salary.

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by justin credulous (471 days ago)

Lord wish I had money being shoved in my pockets! Lol

(I am based in Iraq)

Posted by machree (471 days ago)

well...thanks you guys..
1)He's a westerner
2)He wants to arrange a "date" for me - his friend's wife and planned we shall go out for shopping together. All because he wants to find his "lonely" girlfriend a female friend...Remark, I have few friends, but not shopping that much together, meet few times a month...is it strange and make him think he needs to help find a mate for me? AND I am not STICKY!

(I am based in Shanghai)

Posted by momo8.. (471 days ago)

Ok he's being sweet and it's his friend's wife he wants you to hang out with.Play along, you don't sound like a golddigger so his gesture is nice.If you feel uncomfortable about accepting the money just tell him so but having one more friend is good,why not?

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by justin credulous (471 days ago)

What does Sticky mean, in this context?

(I am based in Iraq)

Posted by helenahk (471 days ago)

just curious, justin, are you really based in iraq?

machree, do you live with your guy? do you have a job?

if this is a new thing, it does indicate something, as to what, maybe you can ask him and share with us the answer.

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by Meiguoren (471 days ago)

Speculation, maybe it's his friends' wife who is lonely and needs a friend. Maybe he needs you to help him do a favor by getting her out of the house, but he doesn't want to ask you to shop (as a favor to him / his friend) without giving you some funds to do it with.

(I am based in Guangzhou)

Posted by Aijin (part again) (471 days ago)

More speculation… maybe his experience has been with other girlfriends who expect ‘pocket money’… compensated dating/mutually beneficial relationship/whatever euphemism…

Maybe he thinks no money… no honey…


Then again maybe akin to JFK888’s speculation… he won the lottery and wished to spread the joy… or as Balzac would notice it could de with the tres important details ie scuffed not shiny slippers… then again maybe he is a just a nice generous Guy with no agenda… but we have not had a thread bashing speculative superior complexes of certain folk for a while so who really can say?… especially when sticky is evoked...

(I am based in Unspecified)

Posted by Wheelymate (471 days ago)

doubt he is doing any dodgy because if he did, he would be a really stupid guy to ask you to befriend his friend's wife - exchanging notes, gossiping, etc.

maybe he is just doing a favour for his friend who has a lonely wife so enjoy the shopping!

(I am based in Singapore)

Posted by grrrrl : ) (470 days ago)

maybe he has asked the friend to take you to get 'something special' that he doesn't dare to get you himself/ ask you to get? hehe... mmmmmm...?

(I am based in Shanghai)

Posted by machree (470 days ago)

We not live with each other and I have a good job in Shanghai. Just don't want him feel that I need his help or what...

(I am based in Shanghai)

Posted by machree (470 days ago)

We not live with each other and I have a good job in Shanghai. Just don't want him feel that I need his help or what...I shall be able to buy my stuff for myself..

(I am based in Shanghai)

Posted by car_lover (470 days ago)

Then talk to him, why speculate? Speculating something will bring u disaster.

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by dont know why (469 days ago)

Oh for criminey's sake, take the money and enjoy while it lasts. Who cares why he is giving you money. For people who have money, that is the easiest thing to do. It requires no time, no efforts, no nothing. So take as it is. A simple gift. Dont think too much.

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by sam_123 (469 days ago)

Totally agree. Take the money!!!!! Why do females spend so much time evaluating situations?

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by clan (469 days ago)

My concern if I was you would be is he trying to tell me something? Does he not like the way I dress? look? etc....? Is he trying to morph/mold me into someone or something else? Is this a subtle way of saying "honey you look crap please buy something decent as I'm embarrassed to be seen with you?" I don't get why he's doing this to be honest if you're capable of paying yourself? Yeh sure take the money but if tables were turned would he accept this 'gift' from you, or would he be insulted?

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by JFK888 (469 days ago)

Or you can ask for more and more, far away than the$ he gave you until breaking his bottom...He may tell you the reason why he gave you $$ at day one.... as if he wants to get rid of the "the black hole"

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by sam_123 (469 days ago)

Clan, I don't think men are so 'smart' as to have an agenda in everything they do.

Having said that, it does sound like the bf might wish to change how you dress, machree, cos he said he would arrange a girlfriend to specially go shopping with you, not the ususal coffee and chit-chat if his intention is to introduce friends to you. Maybe cos his taste is western and yours Asian? No offense but do you wear A, HelloKitty stuffs; B, frilly / ribbony stuffs; C, shop in Ladies market??

Even if you nod your head on any of the above, so what. I still think you should use the money (he gifted it to you, mind) and shop in Zara and all the nice shops in Ocean Terminal or IFC. I prefer western clothes anyway - they are so much more complimentary on the figure, whether you are white, yellow or orange, and easy on the eyes.

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by HK1 (469 days ago)

Sounds to me sam 123 you go after relationships for the $$$, and don't understimate the men, I think they are alot smarter than you give them credit for.

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by Cruz (468 days ago)

He just changed the dynamic in your relationship a little - not alot, but enough to make you go hmmmmm....
Reading into it (way too much) I guess I would want to know how he put the offer on the table to you - was it a "I thought you might like this...", or was it a casual "Here's some cash, you should shop with..." ? Really, how troubled are you by this ?
If you want to keep it simple with him, just refuse and say your happy to go shopping and don't need any money.
Or take it all and call Sam 123...

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by Pumpkin (467 days ago)

I agree with Sam (but I wasn't going to post because it sounds a bit harsh). Isn't it just a nice way to get someone dressing better...fix up a date with someone to go shopping with and give you the money to shop..

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by FunchalPP (467 days ago)

You can always ask him for the reason and then make a decision whether you want his cash gift.

Just take up the offer of meeting his friend's wife, have a good meal, window shop together & make a new friend. We can always do with advice/feedback in our wardrobe selection,but make own decision.

As mentioned by others, if you go to Zara, there are lots of choices.

(I am based in Shanghai)